21 Questions

33 Days of Truth: Day 5

21 Questions

Day 5 and still alive! Almost a week into my 33 Days of Truth personal growth challenge, woohoo!

I’m continuing to work on the post that held me up on Day 4… It’s still not ready to go. Oy! But, I’m getting really into clarifying and adding to the it, which in spite of myself keep expanding. It’s as if the more I write, the more there is to write about. I’m not going to force an end to it. I’ll let it grow up into whatever it wants to be. And write about other stuff in the meantime.

So, I’ll drop something else here today. 21 questions. This was originally from a list of 40 questions I found somewhere online and answered a while back in my journal. I have whittled down and updated them. They’re a bit random, but still fit the bill in terms of my Truth challenge. 

It was interesting to find that some of my answers evolved a bit since I went through the questions the first time. It has been maybe 6-9 months. Which is something I’m being reminded about in this process: what was true before may not be true now. What is true now, may be different later. It’s definitely good to check in with yourself every so often.

Below my own Q & A, I’ve listed all 21 questions by themselves so if you want to copy/paste them to fill out yourself, please do! And feel free to share with me if you want to. I’d be stoked to read your responses. 🙂

21 Questions: Bri Edition 

  1. What’s the one thing you would like to change about yourself?

    My initial reaction to this question is that I’m not supposed to want to change anything! I “should” accept myself as I am. But I’m passionate about personal growth, and I know I have the power to change for the better if that is something I desire. And it most certainly is. I would say that I want to be a better writer, speaker and communicator; I want to be able to connect more deeply with people and to share myself more honestly and authentically. And I want to be a more fit/active person as well, to cultivate a lifestyle that includes more movement and regular physical fitness. That’s more than one thing…

  2. Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert? 

    Both. I worked hard to become a more extroverted person in my teens and twenties, and I test as an extrovert (if that counts for anything). But I identify more with introverts, insofar as I view them as those who recharge by being alone, and extroverts as those who recharge by being with other people. I’m finding my balance between these two polarities.

  3. What was the best phase in your life? 

    2014, hands down. That whole year was magic. It was the sweet spot in my time back in my hometown on the coast of California after university graduation. It followed major decompression from city life, and was a beautiful and refreshing re-blossoming of my self. I came into my own as I never had before. New friends, new hobbies, a better lifestyle. I finally learned how to relax and have fun and enjoy things. 2014 was this exquisite alchemical year where everything seemed to come together and flow.

  4. What was the worst phase in your life? 

    Ughghgh! 2008-2010. I felt so stuck, working at an office job in LA and living in Hollywood, absolutely miserable and unable to pull out of that. I didn’t know how. Finances kept me stuck in the trap. I would cry on the phone with my mom at lunch breaks, and I would cry on my drive home – sometimes so hard I had to pull over because I could no longer see the road through tears. I was super depressed. I stopped giving a s***, and not in a cool way. I would sleep until the last possible second before having to get up for work. I started skipping showers. It was bad. Getting into USC film school saved me.

  5. Is what you’re doing now what you always wanted to do growing up? 

    Nope! When I was a kid, I wanted to live with my parents forever. I didn’t really have a vision for what I wanted to do the way kids say, “I want to be a fire fighter!” or “I want to be a doctor!” In high school, I played around with different career paths based on what I was passionate about: fashion design, journalism, psychology, film. Film encapsulated all the others in one way or another so I chose that. But I fell out of love with that path, the industry and everything. Maybe if I’d pursued it differently, let it be a freely creative outlet for myself, I might have gotten further along; instead I blocked my self-expression and felt unsatisfied by everything I tried to make. Secretly I was always more interested in personal growth and self-discovery. It’s been my shadow passion. I’ve never allowed it to take front and center even though it’s always been there, always pulling at my attention. That’s the essence behind what I now want to do when I grow up… Not so much a doing and more a way of being.

  6. What makes you feel accomplished? 

    When I dive into a creative project and lose all track of time, but actually make meaningful progress. Completing something that I care about and that excites me. Like a written article or editing a video. I feel accomplished when I get things done I’ve been putting off.

  7. What’s your favorite book/movie of all time and why did it speak to you so much? 

    My favorite movie is Titanic. It enraptured me heart and soul. I got the Titanic fever for sure. I loved the era, the costumes, the characters, the dialogue, the story, the love, the tragedy. It was so romantic and epic and sad. The emotional journey was so engrossing.

    As for my favorite book of all time – there are two of them  and they’re not books but full series: Harry Potter, and Anne of Green Gables. They each take me into another world, one magical and exciting, one old-fashioned and sweet. I can go back to them again and again and never get tired of the experiences. 

  8. What is a relationship deal breaker for you? 

    Suspicion, jealousy and possessiveness.

    Using “your” instead of “you’re”… in earnest. 😛

  9. When do you think a person is ready for marriage? 

    When commitment is strong for both partners and they share the same vision and goals for a life together; they have a future that matches up. And when they have developed really good, honest communication with each other. And when they are clear about what marriage means to them. It is not for everybody. Having a strong why is important. I do not think the sanctity of marriage itself is anything to adhere to for legal, religious, or even moral reasons. Personal commitments can and should be regularly evaluated, and renegotiated if and when necessary.) 

  10. What kind of parent do you think you will be? 

    Flexible and conscious; I would want to raise strong, aware, good-hearted human beings. I would hope to be a very loving, supportive, and fun parent, as well as firm when it counts and a positive role model. I know this would take a lot of self awareness and evaluation every step of the way. Becoming a mom may or may not be part of my life path. Right now I’m very ok with the being an auntie. 

  11. What would you do if your parents didn’t like your partner? 

    Could not even see that happening! If I love them, they love them. It just wouldn’t enter into the equation. I think they would trust my judgment. I also trust theirs, so if I was somehow totally blind to something, I’d expect feedback. But I’d probably be the first one sussing it out.

  12. Who is that one person you can talk to about just anything? 

    My sister. Absolutely.

  13. What’s an ideal weekend for you? 

    Camping, hiking, travel. Going on an adventure in nature, somewhere new with people I love spending time with. 

  14. Do you judge a book by its cover? 

    Ha! I used to do this literally as a kid. I would look at books in the library and get them just for the cover, because I liked the artwork. Don’t like to admit it but I sometimes make snap judgements of people based on exterior factors. Although I’m not so sure if that’s actually what I’m judging, or if I’m in fact picking up on subtler body language or even nonphysical cues like their energy vibe. Often I’ll think something surprising about a person and not be sure if I’m making s*** up or intuitively reading them. 

  15. When was the last time you broke someone’s heart? 

    There are a few guy friends of mine who have wanted more with me that I had to let down, telling them I didn’t feel the same way. We stayed friends in those cases, but I know it hurt.

  16. What’s the one thing that people always misunderstand about you? 

    They often think I’m really serious when I’m joking. Something in my tone or face throws them off. I could improve in my comedic delivery. 

  17. What did your past relationship teach you? 

    Being with someone is easier than I thought. Sex is simpler than I thought (for the most part). Falling in love is still a b***. 

  18. What are your thoughts on online dating or Tinder

    I’ve had success with Tinder. Fun dates. A nine-month stint. I’m a fan of the app approach to meeting new people. It’s like the Craigslist of dating though; you really have to weed through a lot of junk and weirdies.

  19. What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done and would you do it again? 

    Probably jumping out of a plane would be the “craziest”. I went skydiving for my 30th birthday. I would potentially do it again.
    Also, I never thought I’d get a tattoo and then ended up with one in a short whirlwind 24 hour period. And now I have ideas for others I want.

  20. If a genie granted you 3 wishes right now, what would you wish for? 

    Oh geez! For everyone on Earth to feel compassion and empathy for everyone (and everything). For everyone to become their true authentic selves and express their essence and creativity in whatever way is most befitting them. For me to connect with a special person that I can be in a fun, loving and committed relationship with… It’s been too long coming. I’d use a wish on that! 

  21. What do you think about when you’re by yourself? 

    Ha!!!!

21 Questions: You Edition

  1. What’s the one thing you would like to change about yourself? 
  2. Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert? 
  3. What was the best phase in your life?
  4. What was the worst phase in your life? 
  5. Is what you’re doing now what you always wanted to do growing up?
  6. What makes you feel accomplished? 
  7. What’s your favorite book/movie of all time and why did it speak to you so much? 
  8. What is a relationship deal breaker for you? 
  9. When do you think a person is ready for marriage? 
  10. What kind of parent do you think you will be? 
  11. What would you do if your parents didn’t like your partner? 
  12. Who is that one person you can talk to about just anything? 
  13. What’s an ideal weekend for you? 
  14. Do you judge a book by its cover? 
  15. When was the last time you broke someone’s heart? 
  16. What’s the one thing that people always misunderstand about you? 
  17. What did your past relationship teach you? 
  18. What are your thoughts on online dating or tinder?
  19. What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done and would you do it again?
  20. If a genie granted you 3 wishes right now, what would you wish for? 
  21. What do you think about when you’re by yourself? 

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